Inability to navigate conflict productively can cost us tremendously:
On the other hand, when we learn to hold multiple points of view, engage complexity, really hear one another, and communicate clearly and effectively, we can unleash the
inherent within conflict to catalyze our work in the world.
I have worked as a consultant, researcher, mediator and advisor for organizations, companies, non-profits, international non-governmental organizations and multilaterial agencies.
I help leaders, founders and senior management teams cultivate the skills and capacities to handle conflict and disputes creatively and effectively.
I specialize in:
Communication & negotiation
Teamwork & collaboration
Diversity & inclusion
Conflict management/transformation systems
I guide my clients in up-leveling their interpersonal relationships — to incorporate greater connection, clarity and compassion into their workplaces — in order to maximize the impact they seek to make in the world.
To skillfully respond to the greatest challenges of our time, leaders must powerfully convey their vision, embody integrity, master the skills of communication and cooperation, become flexible at seeing multiple perspectives, and know how to build trusting, resilient relationships.
I specialize in:
Leadership & management development
Relationship building & networking
Vision, values & story-telling
I am whole-heartedly committed to serving people who wish to embrace inner transformation and upgrade their capacity for skillful outer action.
If you want to know how this will help you move the needle on what matters most to you,
feel free to get in touch.
I'm a conflict consultant, leadership coach, and co-author of the book
I started my career as a lawyer in London and Singapore, where I cut my teeth in the fields of litigation and arbitration, learning how to negotiate high-value, high-stakes disputes in international and corporate fields. But I soon realized that I was not satisfied with these ways of resolving conflict that, by design, could only deliver win/lose outcomes that privileged one side over the other.
I needed to know that more was possible - for the benefit of all.
A huge turning point for me came through the work of one of my teachers, who expanded my worldview by incorporating integral and Zen Buddhist lenses to conflict work - helping me understand not only that much more was available, but that it was a necessary part of our growth to find those ways.
I went on to undertake my masters at Columbia University in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution, and later supported their program's post-graduate Resolution Strategies course as a Teaching Associate. Deeply devoted to the causes of international peace work, I became a conflict resolution specialist and peace researcher in and around the United Nations in New York, researching peacebuilding, mediation and gender issues with various international non-governmental organizations, multilateral institutes and universities. In this time, I thoroughly stretched and strengthened my capacity to hold the macro- as well as the micro- perspectives of some of our most ambitious organizations in our world, and the communities they reach. As it was important to me to keep honing my skills as a practitioner, I became certified as a mediator through the New York Peace Institute, carrying out community level mediation in Manhattan and Brooklyn. In one of my roles serving in the United Nations, supporting the appointment of senior leaders for many of the major political and peacekeeping missions, my passion for leadership really became sparked. Over time, I realized I cared most about advancing visionary leaders' abilities to connect and catalyze real change through engendering creativity and cooperation among their movements.
Earlier in my career, I instructed yoga and meditation across Singapore, Bali, China, and Japan. One unique flavor of my work derives from my background in mindfulness, zen buddhism, yoga, somatic bodywork, partner practices and philosophy (Eastern and Western), and these systems subtly but powerfully permeate my approach.
Today, I focus primarily on coaching, consulting, and writing, and my forthcoming co-authored book Compassionate Conversations will be available in late spring of 2020 with Shambhala Publications.
After growing up between London, Hong Kong and Singapore, I am now based in sunny Southern California, where you can find me stretching, dancing, playing on the beach, and always dreaming up new adventures.
The definitive guide to learning effective skills for engaging in open and honest conversations about divisive issues from three professional mediators.
When a conversation takes a turn into the sometimes uncomfortable and often contentious topics of race, religion, gender, sexuality, and politics, it can be difficult to know what to say or how to respond to someone you disagree with.
Compassionate Conversations empowers us to transform these conversations into opportunities to bridge divides and mend relationships by providing the basic set of conflict resolution skills we need to be successful, including listening, reframing, and dealing with strong emotions.
Addressing the long history of injury and pain for marginalized groups, the authors explore topics like social privilege, power dynamics, and, political correctness allowing us to be more mindful in our conversations.
Each chapter contains practices and reflection questions to help readers feel more prepared to talk through polarizing issues, ultimately encouraging us to take risks, to understand and recognize our deep commonalities, to be willing to make mistakes, and to become more intimate with expressing our truths, as well as listening to those of others.
Diane Musho Hamilton
Gabriel Menegale Wilson
Kimberly Myosai Loh
“This book is a must-read at a time when we absolutely need more successful strategies for navigating conflict and difference.”
Oren Jay Sofer, author of Say What You Mean
“ Not only does Compassionate Conversations address the fundamental issues involved in current public debates, it does so using a framework that can actually unite and integrate the various parties in the fractured culture wars.
This book shares a series of incredibly useful skills to help you advance genuinely compassionate conversations and find a way to make room for all the parties that are engaged in conflict.”
The authors skillfully engage their unique cultural, ethnic, and spiritual perspectives to confront the perplexing questions of how we, as individuals and as a society, can have wise and compassionate conversations. Truly an exciting book for our times.”
For its clarity and bravery, its deep and practical guidance, its gentleness and fierceness, I wholeheartedly recommend this book.”
Margaret Wheatley, author of Leadership and the New Science and Who Do We Choose to Be?
“Any reader will gain insight from this helpful guide to communication and conflict resolution.”
“In order to build the movements capable of transforming our world,
we have to do our best to live with one foot in the world we have not yet created.”
– Aurora Levins Morales